WHAT AM I GOOD AT?
The topic ‘What am I good at?’ beautifully ties in with knowing your strengths, skills and assets and claiming them confidently.
– What does confidence mean to me?
– What do I want to be confident in?
(Be specific, Example: I would like to be confident in saying No without having to explain myself. OR I would like to be confident in speaking up for myself in debates. OR I would like to feel confident in expressing my views without worrying about what others will say or think about me OR I would like to feel confident in job interviews . etc)
Be confident when talking about your strengths and what you are good at. Practise it in the mirror.
We often feel ashamed or embarrased to talk about what we are good at, as we were taught by society / parents / teachers not to boast and be humble.
Say it out loud (in the mirror to start off with):
Examples: I’m good at listening; I am creative; I am compassionate; I am funny; I am a good organiser; I am a good mum. I am a good sister. etc.
First it will feel fake. The more you practise it, the more you start to believe it and feel it. That is the key!!! Trust me, It was awkward for me too at the beginning as I didn’t believe them first. It’s all about practice! If you are willing to put the work into it, success will come to fruition!!!
If you find this exercise challenging, think of a recent situation that you thought you handled really well OR a task/project/duty/responsibility/activity you were successful in. What skills / assets / strengths did you use to have a succesful outcome? OR What do your true friends say they like about you?
WE ARE ALL RESOURCEFUL!!! WE HAVE THE ANSWERS WITHIN US!
THERE ARE NO UNRESOURCEFUL PEOPLE, ONLY UNRESOURCEFUL STATES!
CHANGE YOUR STATE (your physiology and the way you feel) AND IDEAS WILL FLOW! YOU WILL FEEL EXHILARATED!
Be confident to say what you love about yourself.
Examples: I am kind. I see the best in everyone. I am loving. I am caring. I am a good listener. I am passionate. I am healthy. I make people laugh. I praise people. I tell people about their strengths. I share good practice. I have a beautiful smile. I love my eyes.
Again, this exercise is most powerful when done in the mirror.
Check out the mirror work video by beloved author and mirror work expert, Louise L. Hay:
Be sure to start noticing what you love, what makes you happy and what makes you lose yourself in the moment. Remember! YOU ALWAYS COME FIRST! If you don’t feed your soul, you won’t feel good and you won’t be able to serve others.
Do more of what you love on a weekly basis. Doing activities you love will also help you change your state, you will feel good and you will feel anticipation and excitement. You will be receptive to all the good in life and inspirational ideas and possibilities will flow. Be happy first and then…
It could be as simple as walking in the park, reading from an inspirational book, writing a list of appreciation for the day, listening to beautiful music etc.